We like to romanticize the idea that our “first love” will be our only love and that marriage should be forever, which makes us petrified of the idea of divorce. However, with over half of all marriages ending in divorce, it’s a fact of life we have to face, and dating after divorce can be difficult for various reasons. Sometimes, relationships we initially feel comfortable in don’t end up working, and it’s easy to blame ourselves and let failed relationships close us off to future possibilities. There’s a notion that the pool of available singles gets smaller as we get older, further discouraging people from putting themselves out into the dating world. Michael S. Broder, Ph.D., author of The Art of Being Single said in a 2003 article in Psychology Today that there exists a fear of dating which can be the fear of being hurt, rejected or involved that results from a history of bad relationships.
Clearly, finding love after divorce isn’t easy, but it also isn’t impossible. It’s important to put yourself out there — planning activities you’ve always wanted to try and engaging in new and exciting experiences can be a great way to meet potential partners! Also, avoiding negativity is key: a positive self-image and a positive attitude about dating go a long way in getting back into playing the field. When you first started navigating the oft-treacherous waters of relationships, you may have wanted different qualities in your co-captain than you want now, so it’s helpful to have an idea as to how what you want has changed. Above all, it’s important to avoid “rebound relationships” — don’t hastily date just anyone for the sake of dating, but rather wait until you are ready to seek people with whom you are truly compatible.
Finding a partner with whom you’ll click can be quite difficult, but Elegant Introductions can help connect you with someone and get you back in the dating game, ready to score! For more information, call Nancy and Barbara at Elegant Introductions today at 305-615-1900 or contact us for more information.