Are you in your 40s or 50s (or beyond) and finding yourself having to jump into the dating game again? Maybe you’re divorced or widowed or are simply finding that you’ve been alone for a while and are now looking for a romantic partner. Whatever your situation, it can be daunting to think about putting yourself back “out there” again. But, wouldn’t it be easier if you knew that dating in your 40s and beyond is actually a better time to find true love? Trust us, it can be, if you go into your search with a few things in mind…
Over 40 Dating Advice
- You Have More to Offer – Whether you are just entering middle age or have already sailed through it, you’ve learned from past errors and have been through enough trials to know what you want in a romantic partner. You can, hopefully, spot romantic red flags waving from a mile away. Additionally, you’ll be more adept at handling conflict and better able to communicate with your partner.
- Women: You are at Your Passion Peak – As a women’s reproductive years wind down, her interest in sex often rises. Why? In many cases, it’s because women can take the time to play and enjoy life a little more. If she’s a mother, her children are likely old enough that she doesn’t have to worry about getting up with the baby or chasing after toddlers so she isn’t as tired. Biologically, for women who are in their 40s or beyond, their proverbial “clock” isn’t ticking as loudly anymore, so they can relax and focus more on themselves and their lover. Plus they aren’t getting into the wrong relationships just because their childbearing years are winding down and they want to have a baby.
- You’re More Stable Financially and Emotionally – When you reach the 40s, you are generally established in a profession, so you have had time to build a nest egg, reduce debt, and work out a game plan that allows you to create financial stability while giving you some room to enjoy yourself with exciting vacations and romantic dinners. Emotionally, you are less likely to fall into the same old traps, are better equipped to choose commitments wisely, and are reliable enough to take them seriously.
- Societal pressure is off – In your 40s and after, you don’t have to worry about what society thinks about you not being married because the pressure is off to pair up and produce children. You can just relax and look for the person who completes your already autonomous life: the one whom you simply enjoy spending time with, the one who makes you happy to be around.
Some final thoughts – dating in your 40s and after can be much more exciting and fulfilling than dating in your 20s and 30s. As you mature, you gain advantages over your younger counterparts: your identity is firmly established, you have learned what is important to you, and you can handle setbacks with grace. You can lead a life separate from your partner so you are less likely to fall into the trap of having to have someone around simply because you are lonely. You are better able to see someone for who they are rather than for the “perfect” attributes you used to require in your youth. With this enhanced self-awareness, there is a greater chance that you build more lasting relationships.
We Can Help!
If you are looking for The One, we can help! Our elite matchmakers take the time to get to know you and find out what you need and want in a relationship before they match you with anyone. For more information, call Nancy and Barbara at Elegant Introductions in South Florida at 305-615-1900 or contact us today.